Pleasure with Aging
Many men and women get caught up in the nostalgia of their youth and believe sexuality diminishes with age, but it simply is not true! With age comes experience and maturity, and a whole new opportunity to ignite your sexuality.
After the age of 50 the sexual response of men decreases, and erectile changes become more noticeable.(1) Often times both men and women assume this is an unavoidable reality of aging, but this belief is false!
Now is the time to ride the waves of intensity, and to involve touch and tenderness more deeply during intercourse. Practicing sexual diversity can help partners discover (or rediscover) intense pleasures that are often overlooked during the instant-gratification and procreation-driven ages of a man’s sexuality.
For women, age and sexuality have little to do with the “hinderance” of menopause. With no more concern for an unwanted pregnancy or the monthly inconvenience of a period now is the time to fully embrace your inner sexual personality!(2)
You and your partner must take control of your sex life! Play with the freedom and experience that only age can bring to your sexuality. Do not be afraid to experiment with sexual games, toys, lubricants and moisturizers to ignite (or reignite) the sexuality in your relationship.
Sexuality improves with age and experience, so embrace your physical and hormonal changes and fulfill the sexual desires that are still alive within you!
It is important for the well-being of women to maintain sexuality as they navigate the emotional and physical challenges of menopause. Sexuality is strongly influenced by aging. As women age, a decline in sexual activity is often the result of a lack of a partner, a decline in sexual interest, an increase in health problems, or vaginal dryness due to lower estrogen levels.(3)
Menopause-related vaginal dryness can contribute to arousal difficulties and cause pain with vaginal penetration.(3) Lubricants and moisturizers are effective at relieving pain during intercourse for moderate vaginal dryness. An array of different solutions exist to help you enhance your desire and arousal.
If vaginal dryness persists, consult with your healthcare professional to find the right prescription alternative or sex therapy for you.
Sex during pregnancy
Sex during pregnancy is perfectly normal and safe, but if your pregnancy is considered a high risk pregnancy, consult your doctor before engaging in intercourse.
Sexual interest and difficulty becoming aroused despite being interested may be affected by hormonal fluctuations, fatigue, nausea, or weight gain. Consult your doctor if sexual disorder symptoms persist.(4)
Sex after childbirth
It is recommended to wait until the normal bleeding after childbirth (lochia) subsides before having sex, in order to reduce the risk of infections. This period can often take up to six weeks.
During the first few weeks of re-engaging in sexual intercourse women may experience pain or discomfort. Vaginal dryness is common during breast feeding, and hormonal changes post pregnancy may cause reduced sexual desire, however this is temporary.(4) Lubricants and unscented moisturizers are effective for relieving pain during intercourse and various solutions exist to help you rediscover your sexual desire after pregnancy.
If vaginal dryness or pain during intercourse persists, consult your healthcare professional about finding the right medical solution or therapy for you.
- The management of Erectile dysfunction: An update, American Urological association, June 2007
- Menopause guideline, the Society of Obstetricians and Gynaecologist of Canada, Septembre 2014
- Managing Menopause, the Society of Obstetricians and Gynaecologist of Canada, Septembre 2014
- Female Sexual Health Consensus Clinical Guidelines, the Society of Obstetricians and Gynaecologist of Canada, august 2012 V34:8:2